Before anybody says anything, I know!
I’m the last one that should be giving advice about this topic.
But in my defense, I just don’t go around dating every girl that has a beating heart. I do some research on the players I’m scouting. See if they’ll be the right pick for my team. See if they’ll be worth drafting. And ya know sometimes, said player wouldn’t be happy with the sign on bonus I offer. Or would play a few games for another team while under contract.
But, sounds pretty soft right? Well, I am soft when it comes to this. People attach these negative stereotypes to males about them being players and man whores and shit. But I just want someone to watch chick flicks with and cheer me on while I play Xbox. I like to do all types of sensitive stuff during a relationship. Like go on dinner dates, do surprises, buy flowers, candy, walks in the park, binge watch a whole Netflix show in a week, workout together, and the list goes on. I fucks with that shit HEAVY.
Go head make your jokes.
Little more of an insight for those who don’t know me, I’m weird as fuck and I get way too comfortable with people in an alarming amount of time.
My life is an open book (With popup pictures) if I fucks with you.
A relationship with me isn’t like a emotional roller coaster as I once said. It’s like the tower of doom that someone paid a horse to build. Get to know me more and you’ll understand why.
But after a year or 30 mins or however long we date they will pretty much know my life story.
A great fear of mine is to see one of my exes around town as i’m with my current girlfriend. Lets call her Beyonce for the sake of the situation. They see me and Beyonce walking around and I act like I don’t see her (my ex) so she walks up, gets real close to Bey and whispers in her ear, “Do you know, he broke his arm as a baby because he feel asleep on it with that big ass egg head of his.”
So my advice would be to try and stay on good terms with your exes. Who knows, maybe it would develop into a decent friendship. Maybe even become best friends. Maybe they show up at your apartment at midnight and bang on your window while you have a girl (friend) over. Maybe they scare your friend so bad that she hides in the closet while you get 2 pieced by said ex on your door step. Maybe said ex will somehow get your phone from you and drive off with it and verbally abuse everybody in your contacts via text message.
People these are not hypotheticals, this really happened.
Control+Alt+Delete that person out your life as fast as you can.
And this is where people who know me will give me shit.
Because ex who will remain nameless. Matter of fact for the sake of the situation i’ll give her a fake name as well. Lets call her Jons. Jons and I dated for a couple years and we remained on speaking terms after a horrible breakup. I went through some pretty stressful situations with school and being broke, so I would vent my issues to her and what not. And I don’t if she mistook my intentions or what but she took that as me wanting to get back together. And some more crazy stuff happened and long story short there are exes you just can’t be friends with.
Of course there’s two sides to every story and i’m not trying to throw dirt on her name or anything. But what i’m getting at is there are people in life that you have to separate yourself from for your own well being. No matter how sincere they may sound or if they come off as somebody who supports you. Here and there they will tear you down, to a point where you doubt your own choices, your own dreams. And this was a lesson that I had to learn the hard way. (examples will come up in other blog post)
On the flip side of that I have exes that i’m actually really good friends with. We catch up here and there. I do favors for some of them, like pick them up from the bar, bring them food, help with homework. Little things like that and they’d return the favor. Most recently my ex Kassaundra gave me the greatest present I’ll ever receive.
This is Marley.
I know I’ve gone back and forth on this post but my final advice is to stay on good terms with your exes. But make your intentions clear from the start. If they can’t get on board with your intentions then kick them to the curb.
Like I’ve said multiple times in my blog posts. I don’t consider myself as a relationship guru or expert or anything like that. I’m just telling my story and hoping people will learn from my own mistakes. Thanks for the read. Sorry for posting so late and if this feels rushed. It’s been a long weekend.
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